SEXual Problems For The Christians
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SEXual Problems For The Christian
In a recent Christian Counseling quarterly publication I receive every single article discussed sexual problems. This really confirmed that the problems of this nature are definitely prevalent within the Christian Community. Many shy away from discussing issues that are of a sexual nature. It is quite evident that a plethora of the problems we are experiencing are rooted in improper sexual misconduct.
The Bible has a lot to say about sexual relationships. One of the main problems is that sex is more often than not practiced outside of the sanctity of marriage. God has said it is only within the marriage bed that sex is “undefiled.” Many have indulged in adultery and homosexuality and defiled the marriage bed.
It is of no secret that time after time we see many men and women who fall prey to the pitfalls of sexual misconduct. Not fully realizing that sex outside of marriage is like “fire outside of the fireplace.” It’s dangerous! It will burn your house down! You are setting your self up for disappointment. You see sex outside the confines of marriage simply means; I am not fully committed to you. I need to be with you to see if we are physically compatible. I’ve been hurt before so I don’t really want to get too serious. Or my spouse and I don’t have a satisfying relationship so I’m really glad you are there for me. Or "I need you baby" if you love me you will do this for me? There are so many more scenarios as well… Of course you have not uttered this in words. In the above cases your actions speak louder than words. Many simply do not really know what marriage is all about!
I have receive many questions in regards to sexual problems. Many are trapped because they have no where to turn. Many women just don’t want to be alone so they offer themselves sexually, yet are physically unsatisfied. Many have been conditioned ignorantly to use sex as a tool to manipulate. Women who are used for sexual purposes are often thought of as mere objects. Many have been sexually abused causing them to feel low self worth. Often causing them to turn to drugs and or unwise counsel further leading to a perilous journey of confusion and anxiety and more issues...
Many have been taught that sex is no big deal! Everybody has sex and it does not matter if you are married or not. Especially if you are past a certain age or you have already been married. Or if you are not having sex something is wrong with you. You are not normal. But that is not the Christian perspective! You are giving parts of yourself away! This is why you feel less than... You see God gives specific directions. The Bible says “for this cause shall a man leave His Father and Mother and cleave to His wife and they shall become one flesh.”
Sex outside the confines of marriage is dangerous emotionally. Why? It sets you up for possible problems that may not be apparent until much later? This is regardless of how young or old you may be...There is a deeper meaning to sex than the physical exchange. A bonding takes place. There is a magnetic chemical exchange. Within the confines of marriage a miraculous spiritual transaction is taking place! Did you know that scripture tells us “whatever you join yourself to becomes a part of you?” Deep down you must know and feel that something is wrong, but you just can’t put your finger on it. It also shows a lack of discipline. Some people just don’t practice good moral boundaries. They will sleep with anybody! Married or not married! Others have been erroneously taught that it really does not matter. If it feels right we are not hurting anybody! From a Biblical standpoint just know you are outside the will of God! Anytime you choose to operate outside of God’s boundaries you can expect some trouble.
Our current and future generations of teenagers have fewer and fewer positive moral role models. Too many factured marriages and families! This also causes many of them to question their own sexuality or wonder if marriage is viable? They are all to often seduced to seek alternative ways to satisfy their sometimes overwhelming desire to appease raging hormones... This is a vulnerable stage of life! Peer presure is already a constant factor in their lives... Therefore they can be easily led down an ambilvalent primrose path that further adds to this already complicated period of growth and development! Instead abstinence and discipline should be encouraged!
Think about this for a moment. Did you know that if no one practiced sex outside of marriage there would be no one to cheat with? Fewer broken homes! Fewer STD’s! Fewer Abortions! Fewer marriages ending in divorces where people are unable to reconcile their differences! It’s hard to imagine! God has given us His Word to protect us! He has even told us that there is “no temptation common to man that He has not prepared a way of escape.”
A committed married monogamous relationship is the only way that God honors a sexual relationship! He has provided and ordained marriage. You see God has designed marriage as the only proper way a man and woman can fulfill their natural sexual desires. He is not the designer of any other method. If you have been taught or thought otherwise you are fooled. I don’t care what Mommy, Daddy, Grandpa, Grandma, Aunt, Uncle, Friend, Doctor, Minister, Pastor. Bishop, Apostle or Foe has said there are consequences! You see it is time out for living in the dark. Especially if you have confessed to be a Christian! It is time to stand up and speak out for what God has said is right.
Let's HELP this next generation; these teenagers of this 21st century "where anything goes" and begin giving them better morale role models! Let's open up the lines of communication so they can validate their feelings! Give them a phone and tell them "to call you anytime they NEED you" Let's HELP them so they do not feel that they have to give parts of themselves away in order to be accepted! Give them more "hugs" less criticism and more compassion and understanding. Less bickering and fighting and more constructive ways to resolve conflict such as Powerful, loving biblical instructions! Just think if it is hard for adults it is even harder for teenagers...
When I went to seminary I was somewhat disappointed, but not surprised that the same problems existed. I learned that sexual misconduct is practiced on many levels. It did not matter that my views were misconstrued as prudish because I know better! Good boundaries should be exercised when you know someone is weak in certain areas. Many Christians have been side tracked by indulging in sexual sin. The Spirit of God is quenched when you operate in a carnal mode. Many operate by using a spirit of seducement which is not of GOD! Remember this is a Spiritual battle. Many honestly don’t realize how they water down the effectiveness of their testimony.
I have seen that people are a lot more interested in talking about people who have a problem with material possessions. Usually the one who really has the problem is fixated on what someone else has. How big their house is or what kind of vehicle they drive? Or how often they travel here or there? It was not Solomon’s material possessions that got him in trouble. It was His sex life! How he ever managed 300 wives and 700 concubines is news to me. Well you see in actuality he didn’t; it is what really destroyed him. In Ecclesiastes 12:13 &14 Solomon says “Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter; Fear God, and keep His commandments, for this is the whole duty of man.” For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.” Sex is not something to play with, don’t be deceived by thinking other wise. The employment of improper sex in your life will ultimately lead to some type of dysfunction or some other problem.
I remember jokingly telling my husband years ago that we were going to be looked at, as “there goes that married heterosexual couple.” I am thankful to say God has blessed us with three decades of commitment. This is why I know that by His grace it is possible. We live in a time when 55- 60% of marriages are ending in divorce! This is why I understand that we live in difficult times. The spiritual warfare will do every thing it can to promote and construct distorted views of marriage as favorable. Many couples choose to live together. Many marry and don’t really know what they are getting into! Many marry and have mutual relationships outside of marriage.
Couples are pulled in many directions because of the pulls of sexual freedom. Just know it is a seducing spirit that wants to deceive you. Birth of illicit pleasure can often lead to death of a marriage. If you are married and you know something is not right, please take inventory. Don’t bury your head in the sand like an ostrich! The problem won’t just go away. Don’t front it. Be more concerned about what God thinks! Find out what God has to say about marriage. Begin to take whatever steps are necessary to take back control of your life. Proverbs tells us that you cannot “take fire into your bosom and not be burned.” Earnestly repent and stop indulging in sinful behavior. Run quickly from anyone who comforts you in sexual sin! They will love you to death (which is not love at all) if you have been playing with fire please stop! You will actually feel a lot better when you get things right with God. Remember His blood can cleanse you from all unrighteousness! Just know God is a forgiving God!
Men and women vary in their priorities in the area of sexual needs. Men in general have intercourse higher on their lists of priorities. For instance it may be the number one preference for a man. It may be the second or fourth for the woman. Her first need may be affection. His second may be financial security. You see many often confuse their needs. Affection does not have to always end up in a sexual encounter.
When you properly practice sex within the confines of marriage you can experience true spiritual and sexual fulfillment in harmony. A proper sexual relationship is like “epoxy!” When the two adhesive components come together they form a permanent bond that technically should be very difficult to break. I use this illustration because it visually represents “what God has joined together let not man put asunder.” It is a healthy bond that few really understand. Love always protects it does not suffocate! Begin developing a relationship where you can mutually get your needs met. When you are truly fulfilled you will have no need or desire to indulge in extra marital affairs. You will also have great security knowing that you are honoring God in your relationship!
Sex is a taboo discussion for many. Old wife fables have hindered more than a few marriages. Abuse and cruel punishment rather than discipline have left many scarred. Addicted and coeds with shame! It is often erroneously thought that people who talk about sex have some underlying problem. It is not the talking about sex that is the problem. It is when people misuse or abuse it outside the confines of marriage. It was serious enough that Jesus told the Pharisees that they committed adultery by their thoughts! God is not a God of darkness. Read this passage and allow His Light to illuminate your mind;
“My son. Keep your father’s commands and do not forsake your mother’s teaching. Bind them upon your heart forever; fasten them around your neck. When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you. For these commands are a lamp, this teaching is a light, and the corrections of discipline are the way of life. Keeping you from the immoral woman. From the smooth tongue of the wayward wife. Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life. Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned? Can a man walk on hot coals without his feet being scorched? So is he who sleeps with another’s man wife’ no one who touches her will go unpunished. Men do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his hunger when he is starving. Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold. Though it costs him all the wealth of his house. But a man who commits adultery lacks judgement; whoever does so destroys himself. Blows and disgrace are his lit, and his shame will never be wiped away…” Proverbs 6 NIV.
Sex is a dangerous thing to play with. Did you know you actually give up your power? "SEX outside of marriage is what kryptonite is to Superman; it weaknes you!!! You are also operating outside the will of God! It is harder to say “no” than to give in. If you ever give in you must take responsibility for your actions. Abstinence is the proper birth control method that God honors! Repentance actually means to be remorseful for your actions to the extent you don’t repeat them! Proverbs tells us to “TRUST in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thy own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge HIM and HE WILL direct thy path ” Proverbs 3 When He says all thy ways He means just that!
God’s Word is our guide for proper successful living. He knows what is best for us! Just know that you are not alone! You can choose to do things God’s way or you can do things the world’s way. Just be ready for the consequences. God’s way gives you PEACE in the midst of a troubled world. Just know living God’s way comes with much persecution an mistreatment. But it’s worth every bit of it! ”THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!” Every time you choose God’s way you exercise and strengthen His Miraculous Spiritual Power in your life! We as Christians have an ethical and moral responsibility as His children. God says if you truly LOVE Him; YOU WILL KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS!
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I think the way we feel about sexuality reflects our attitude toward God. Our choice is to make known what we hold as important by choosing sexual expression inside the boundaries that God permits. But, as President Obama informed, the US is not a Christian nation. From what I see in the community, though we have tons of churches, people are not paying God much attention.
I agree with you that as Christians we should treat our sexuality like precious gold - taking care to abide by God's instruction and to present ourselves in a way that does not cause others to stumble. Of fleshly desires, Sex is among the most powerful and has the ability to do egregious damage when misused. Therefore the rules of sexual conduct as given by our Father have to should be adhered to for our own good.
The sadness is that the pressure put on women, particularly teens and young women, through ads, television, film and new media to be sexually attractive, and sexually active, is profound. Sexting is becoming a new youth problem for parents and the schools. The increases in sex offenders and sex related diseases continue to escalate.
Thank you DeBorrah for this enlightening hub. Let us pray for our young people who are the future.
Forever His,
Gary James, You are quite welcome! Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share your wise comments! Please do come again, Blessings!
Sis. DeBorrah,
we need more articles of this nature, to inform us, and keep us alive. It has always been said that men promise love to get sex, and women give sex hoping for love. Romans 1:26-28, For this reason God gave them up to vile passions. For their women exchanged the natural use for what is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting.
Very illuminating hub. You have said it all and it needs no further explanation from me. Thanks for sharing. Peace!
Rev Lady, It is becoming increasingly clear that God's WAY for life and living is being pushed into the background! But that does not relieve us of the responsibility of bringing it to the forefront... Reminding others that God is aware of ALL we do!
You are quite right! As you stated: "From what I see in the community, though we have tons of churches, people are not paying God much attention."
I think that as a woman God made each of us to be beautiful. Attraction is a part of marriage. Men are visual. One does not have to be seductive in order to be beautiful. True beauty starts from within...
I think it is important to teach young teens its wonderful to be beautiful and no one can be a better "you" than you! To build their self eesteem; Letting them know who they are in JESUS! I really like the idea of celebrating becoming a young woman and teaching them the value of saving their first kiss "Purity Teas" are great! But they need to have continued open discussion as they grow... This all takes time and commitment! But It's never too late to start... This also helps them to be confident in circumventing or reporting any abuse or helping their peers...
Please see my Sextexting Hub! Thank you for your candid comments. Yes let's do pray for our teens and adults. Thank you for sharing, Love & Blessings!
Hello DeBorrah, Thank you for sharing such a notable and insightful hub. I learned alot from it.
godpreacher, We really do need to keep the dialogue open here a moment. We live in a world that is saturated by sex. There is much erroneous information as to what God has to say about relationships. God has ordained marriage as the arena in which we can have growing, natural, mutually satisfying relationships in every way! God is not disconnected from our sex lives. Afterall He is OMNIPRESENT! It is during this time husband & wife bond together and "become one" This was meant by God to be beautiful...
As long as we are here on this side of heaven there is always room for improvement in our marriages!
You have made a very good point! Romans is pretty clear! The world says "anything goes with anyone" This is why there is so much confusion... God says the "marriage bed between husband & wife is undefiled..."
Thank you for taking the time to visit and share your comments, Love & Blessingw
Einron, Thank You! I appreciate you taking the time to stop by and visit. Thank you for sharing, Blessings!
Madison22, Hello to you as well! Thank you! I am glad that you have found this helpful! Thank you for stopping by and please do come again, Blessings!
Sex as a subject is an area that many churches and parents need to do something about. Many shy away from discussing the issue of sex. This avoidance is not doing the society any good. Teach the people the truth. This is a nice and educative hub. Thanks for sharing. Remain blessed.
Philipo, This is quite true. Since this world is so saturated with sex it is important for parents to openly discuss sex with their children & teens in an age appropiate manner. You can hardly even watch TV without some reference to sex. Couples need to be more open with one another about their relationships. To work together to enhance and build happier healthier physical and emotionally satisfying marriages!
We the "Church" need to help dispel a lot of the myths. As you said "avoidance is not doing the society any good..."
God intended for His Church to lead "The WAY" but in many areas sex included the Church is following the world.
Thank you for visiting and sharing! Blessings
GREAT! GREAR! GREAT! HUB!!!! Let the truth be told! AMEN SISTER! Blessings!!!
Drpastorcarlotta, Thank you for taking the time to stop by and share your encouraging comments! Blessings to you sister, may the Favor of the Lord rest upon you!!!
Very well written and excellent approach to this topic. We certainly need to hear more of what God lays out in His Word and practice it...not accept or compromise any other standard. There is definitely a generation out there wanting answers because what is being said has not worked. Keep up the good work of presenting the TRUTH!
His Daughter, Thank You! I realize that many do not want to necessarily hear about this. But we must really get in touch with what God says... Its like going down a dead end street and thinking at some point you are going to come out okay? The only way out is to come back and start again. We need to let this next generation know that there really is a better Way. They have viable options!
You are right when you say "There is definitely a generation out there wanting answers because what is being said has not worked."
Thank you for sharing your insightful comments and encouraging words, Blessings!
DeBorrah K-
Another great hub- 'Think about this for a moment. Did you know that if no one practiced ....'
So true!-So many people are being exploited and encouraged to exploit others-- sex is a lucrative industry and feeds many other of the lucrative industries that serve 'mammon' well!
Many see this a freedom,but in my view it's a profound social and moral disorder.
Itakins, Thank You! You have made a very interesting point! It realy is quite interesting because it really is not freedom it's bondage! Nowadays it is dangerous you are playing around with you health...
Thank you also for visiting and sharing your perspective, you always add a welcomed dimension! Peace & Blessings!
Happy New Year to you lovely Lady Deborrah... (Big Hug)
Hmmm, this is very deep and an extremely important Hub. It's nice you wrote and it gives one a lot of food for thought. The people who we surround ourselves with in life are important. Examples, young xtian ladies who are surrounded by "not so strong" xtians would be told - Its 2010, the world has changed - every one does it, as you noted.
People might think this strange but things we do have a spiritual impact. My pastor, months ago spoke about people who get pregnant outside marriage and in some cases the man rejects the child. He said the impact was that as that child grew up, a spirit of rejection would be upon that person - so where ever they turned they'd be rejected and it would hinder their progress in life. Meanwhile, the child now in 20s or 30s can't understand why their life is just not working out. It was a deep message. I wonder if you feel the same.
May God help us to continually choose His way as you noted at the end.
Great Hub, Thanks and Best Wishes. :)
Lady E, HAPPY NEW YEAR to you as well Beautiful lady! Thank you so much for your encouraging comments!
It is true about the people around us! There are many who are believers who are not strong in the Faith! Therefore we must bring to their attention "God's WAY! It is continuously being pushed in the backround! This is why we have so much chaos! God has shown us this is TRUE from the beginning of time! God wants what is BEST for you! He wants you to be HAPPY and... Its important to always remember we are in a spiritual battle.... Therefore one must be "careful and prayerful!" Make a mental list and present your requests to the LORD! GOD says "HE WILL SUPPLY ALL YOUR NEEDS.... "
You have made some very interesting points! You are right about making a spiritual impact! There is great significance to what you say in regards to "rejection" Many do not realize there is a transfer between Mother and child.
This is why it is important to have two parents. However all children are loved by GOD and He has the antedote for this rejection when rejected by a parent! That is to ACCEPT JESUS! HE CAN and will fill that void!
Example: Long story short! Case history of a woman now in 30's who's mother never told her who her father was. Mother never married... Lovely girl but was quite promiscuous prior to marriage trying to fill that void of rejection... Marries but then she has not been able to trust her husband and "rejects" getting close or rejects those who really have tried to help her.... This is A case of rejection being the life theme...
God really does make ALL the difference in the world... There will always be something in life. But I assure you that if you sincerely BELIEVE HIS WORD! Seek Him first He will give you His PEACE that surpasses the understanding of man...
Thank you as always for your insightful and helpful comments! May the Lord Bless and keep you as you inspire and ask questions to provoke us to think and improve! It is ALWAYS a pleasure! Much Love & Blessings!!
Thank you as always!
Wow, this hub is amazing. I would have to agree with you that it's important for us to remind every Christian to reflect on behaviors like pre-marital sex , why it's not right and what are the consequences it carries along with for those who practice it -- how it would not be something that will nurture the relationship but it could actually hurt when the time is not right and if its done outside the sanctity of marriage.
I do love the insight where you have indicated that if no one practiced sex outside of marriage there would be no one to cheat with? a simple thought , yet very powerful realization !
Christianbooks, Thank you! The wonderful thing about God is He allows us the freedom to make choices. Many have not taken the time to find out what God has to say... He did not make us to be robots! But more and more the ways of the world have been embraced by the Church. Therefore you have people who do not honor marriage or see it as sacred. As the world continues to redefine what God has created many marry over and over like changing a pair of shoes.... Not really knowing what the TRUE meaning of LOVE is! It is my desire to get others to consider what God has ro say...
True! If couples were loyal they would not "Cheat" It is important to be aware that God is aware of everything... Thank you for sharing your insightful comments, please do come again! Blessings!
Because we won't discuss healthy sex - it allows for so much exploitation.
I watched a show once where a 13 year old was defending her right to be promiscuous and a teacher in the audience asked her if she would give her gold jewelry to the men she had sex with. The child thought the question was absurd because there was no way she'd give away her gold! The teacher pointed out that the child valued jewelry more than herself - her health, her well-being, even her safety.
We have to teach our children well so they can be healthy adults.
Thanks for so much food for thought.
BK Creative, This is so TRUE! That is an excellent example! There are so many clever devices that have been concocted to divide the family values and replace moral principles with so called "liberalness" It is so important to let children, teen & adults, know that they as well as their health are valuable above any ~ thing. Including giving parts of yourself away a little at a time... Its never too late to change!
Thank you for sharing your insightful comments as well as your many helpful tips! Blessings!
I love the that you are bold in your words!! Sex outside of marriage has more effects than anyone realizes. I was a child born out of wedlock and neither my mother or father wanted me. I discovered who my mother was at age 8 and my father at 16. I have recently realized that I carried a rejection issue and would not let anyone close, even my husband. It is something that takes alot of prayer, forgiveness and tears to come through. I know we are to allow Jesus to come into our lives to fill the void, and I have but there is still cleansing to do so the energy that I am using up on hurt and neglected feelings can better be used to serve God. I can hardly wait for God to finish his house cleaning in me to get on with the plans I know he has made for me. I know every part of my being was his plan to form the person he wanted me to be!!! I know that one day in church I will not have as many tears as I do joy for my Lord, I love to offer him my smiling face in worship.
Thanks so much, as Christians we need to press on in the way of the Lord so as EVERYONE will know the peace and joy that comes with making a Godly decision!!
Tammy Bruner, This is so true! When you think about it, it’s really sort of selfish! Having sex outside of marriage means you possibly want to feel a certain way at the expense of a child’s life? Hmmm... THAT’S DEEP! One must consider that it only takes one time for a baby to be made! One should ask; “Are you willing to take responsibility for that life?” It goes much deeper than most will admit…
For whatever reason your parents gave you up it was about their issues not you! Thank God your life was spared! Despite all that has happened remember you belong to the LORD and always have! GOD LOVES YOU! Children are only entrusted to parents they don’t actually belong to us, but we do have a responsibility to protect them!!! You have learned something about life because of your experiences! God knows everything that has every happened in your life, Let Him work it “ALL out for your good as you learn to TRUST HIM!”
Quite often rejection can become an unhealthy security blanket… You reject others before they reject you! You opened up enough to accept your husband? I hope your husband is loving, kind and patient! Think of the vow you made to Him and the Lord. The Lord CAN HELP you keep those vows! There is a whole new dimension “of You” the Lord will reveal to you. Know you cannot change anything that has happened. But just know each step you take forward the Lord is by your side. He can help you build a strong trusting & loving marriage! "HE IS LOVE" As you Read His WORD ask Him to open your heart so you can discover who you are in HIM!
Just know that God is continually working on all of us! This is why He calls us children. We never get to the place that we arrive… “We are forever becoming!” Life is a process of discovering who we are in Him and trusting Him… Think of those tears as washing away the hurts and making WAY for HIS JOY! Remember “THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH!” I thank the Lord for your open and honest comments! May He give you HIS PEACE that surpasses the understanding of man. Thank you again for sharing and visiting, Please do come again, In HIS Love & Blessings!
Try reading and then apply His Word! Go slow read as little or much as you can… Ephesians is a great book to start! It tells you who you are in JESUS CHRIST! YOU CAN TRUST GOD!!!
Thank you so much for your reply. Yes my husband is very kind and loving, not to mention understanding. He loves God very much and is a good Spritual Leader in our home. There are times that he will gently nudge me in the right direction and others that he will push me with my heels dug in. I know my husband follows the Lord and so I have no fear in my submission to him, as long as God is his Captain I know I can trust him to be mine. Our relationship has flourished since I have developed my own relationship with God! I just share so that others who read your hubs can know there are people who overcome with Jesus, none of us are lost or alone if we rely on God.
I have no shame in saying, "GOD IS MY SALVATION, THE ROCK I SET MY FEET UPON."
Oh how the love of God brings a smile to my face and joy to my heart.
I enjoy your hubs, they help me understand and reaffirm things I read in the bible. God gives me what I need to know WHEN I need to know it. Thanks again!
Tammy Bruner, You are quite welcome! It really is a Blessing to have a husband that Loves the Lord and you are equally yoked! Yes, you can submit because you trust and know that his heart is with the Lord and there is no doubt he loves you! It really is quite wonderful! God’s principles then becomes the major theme of your home!
Thank you for sharing because GOD’S WAY really does work! You are so right you and the Lord are a majority! His Love and His Way is open to ALL who are willing to follow…. Yes, I Agree as you so wonderfully stated "GOD IS MY SALVATION, THE ROCK I SET MY FEET UPON." In His Love & Blessings!
My parents and grandparents would be shocked by today's lack of sexual morality, especially among teens. I taught these kids - I KNOw what they're doing!
Habee, It really is quite shocking! They really are looking for Love in all the wrong places! Not really knowing that they are giving away parts of themselves... I Thank you for stopping by and sharing your comments! Blessings!
The world has bought the devil's lie, hook, line, and sinker. "Sex and love can be separated. Sex and spirituality can be separated. Technique, size, knowledge of the carnal, this is what matters. Try out a woman before you buy (marry). Go on the "down-low" and what she won't know won't hurt her." and on and on and on. It is all lies. God is part of the equations. He indwells us and sups with us. Do we really think we leave Him out of our bedroom? "Without Me you can do nothing." It's pretty plain to me. I always pray for my wife to respond, for me to be loving as Jesus is loving, for God to empower me and bind us together. Great hub, sister DeB.
Nobody, It really is important to be mindful of what God has said about marriage, sex and relationships be brought to the forefront! One cannot change what has been done but it is becoming increasingly clear of the insurmountable problems that we are experiencing universally! There is much to destroy the sanctity of marriage! It is evident when you see the that 55-60% are ending in divorce!
You have made some interesting and valid points that needed to surface. I am preparing a hub right now on the "down-low"
I realize that this will not win a popularity pole, it is a delicate subject! However God wants to be in ever area of our lives! God created sex to be a beautiful expression as well as spiritual bonding of husband and wife. Thank you for openly sharing! Perhaps some will think about embracing God's WAY in this area? Your hearfelt comments have been appreciated. One must realize that God really is aware of ALL we say and do as well as a sincere intentions!
In His Love & Blessings
As a Cristian every Christians role model is jesus or his apostles or st peter
but all of them except few never married but lived as monks
and obviously never had sex as it would have defiled them, also knowing the churchs hostility against marraige and sex in past 2000 yrs esp during medival period.... is it right for a cristian to marry?or become a monk or ascetic could you plz help me out with this
Master of reality, Marriage is honorable in the eyes of God! Sex was made to be a beautiful physical expression of love between a man and a woman... The Scriptures are quite pro marriage and sex within the confines of a committed monogamus marriage is sanctioned by God! The marriage bed is undefiled! Husbands and wives are told to be fruitful and multiply Gen 9 and to not be unashamed... Gen 2
It is quite right for a Christian to marry. The scriptures says "It is better to marry than to burn with passion..." I Corinthains 7 And to "REJOICE with the wife of your youth... Proverbs 5
Thank you for sharing and I hope this is helpful! Blessings!
This is indeed an excellent well-written hub full of wisdom and great truths. Truly the Lord's commandment must be upheld. The Lord gave his commandments out of His great love for us. When God is giving His command about sexual purity God is very much concern for our protection. The best way to live is to abide by the commandments of God so that we will escape destruction. Thank you for sharing this hub. Keep on exposing the truth of the Word of God.
Cristina, Thank you! You are so right we are supposed to uphold His principles... God really does know what is best for us it is out of His Love and concern for us that He has given us guidelines as you say for "our protection"!
Thank you for visiting and sharing your wise and insightful comments. It is Always a pleasure, Blessings!
Nice hub. I really enjoyed reading, great topic and well explored!
Lexy, Thank You! I am so glad that you enjoyed this! Thank you for stopping by and sharing your refreshing and encouraging comments! Please do come again, Blessings!
Thanks for your insight. I think one of the problems for Christians is that we have made the topic taboo in our women's groups. It is an important area in which we can support and encourage each other, and help improve our marriages.
Deborah Demander, You are quite welcome! The Bible has a wealth of wisdom to help us improve and enhance our marriages! Yes, I too believe that we can support as well as encourage each other to improve our marriages... Thank you for visiting and sharing, Please do come again! Peace & Blessings!
Sista, you were on point with this hub. You basically summed up the purpose of sex and biblical marriage! I'm proud to see a Christian taking a stand!!!
Terrydfree, Thank you for stopping by and sharing your comments! Glad you enjoyed this, please do come again! On Christ the solid ROCK I/we stand. Peace & Blessings!
Treatment centers recommend talk therapy and twelve step model for the teenagers suffering from sexual addiction. Cognitive therapy programs are effective in eliminating the distressing emotions and poor thinking. Troubled teens become sober after the counseling programs.
Troubleyouth, Is this to promote your site?
Our youth are important, they are our future!!! Keeping the lines of communication open are very important! It is also crucial and necessary for their well-being to address the spiritual needs of teens in order for their life to be properly balanced... Thank you for stopping by to share! Peace & Blessings!
very good article, I think that people should put their energy into good sex with their spouse rather then in another person. In a marriage sex is sacred and it can be a place where husband and wife explore and find mutal satifaction in each other. A husband and wife are suppose to please each other and once the sexual bond is formed the marriage is even stronger!
DawnM, Thank You! You are Point On! I think that you have a great idea along with wonderful suggestions! Sex was meant to be an exclusive sacred mutual physical expression between a man and a woman!
Imagine how it would be if this was widely practiced? A lot more people would be a lot happier and fulfilled. A lot less divorces and broken families! We are as strong as what we practice! Let's encourage others to "Build better Marriages God's Way!" Thank you for sharing, In HIS Love, Peace, Joy & Blessings!
Dear Mr.s Deborrah : This is such a wonderful hub filled with constructive knowledge. Your thoughts and important information is so well written and discussed that it would be helpful to so many people. God Bless You Dear Heart.
Stars439, Thank you for stopping by to share your words of encouragement! It is my pray to encourage "Building stronger Marriages God's Way!" In His Love Peace & Blessings to you Joann & Becky!
Hi Deborrah, nice hub and i dont think there are many religion in the world which allow you to do adultary. They may allow you more than one marriage but certainly not allow you to have sex outside marriage and it is one of most dangerous thing. No matter how progessive a person is, he or she does wish for a virgin spouce and somewhere deep down it can cause a fight in marriage if boy or girl have had lots of sex outside marriage.
Sweetie, Adultery is becoming an increasingly serious problem... Many do not really understand the deep wounds it causes when one is unable to be loyal. Yes, I agree it is as you say: "most dangerous thing!"
It is my Prayer that people begin to Honor their Marriage Vows as well as the marriages of others!
Thank you for stopping by to share your thoughts, In HIS Love, Grace, Peace & Blessings!
Gary James 2 years ago
Hey Deborrah
Thanks for the reminders and encouragement, indeed we must not be fools, God is not mocked, whatever we sow that we shall reap, thanks for the post.